I convinced Ben to ditch piano lessons today and go in search of a Buddhist temple Sharon told me about during our "Girls lunch out" at Bodees on Friday. The fact that he was willing to skip piano for the first time in 6 years, told me how interested he was in finally getting to see one. The plan was to head out after our normal Saturday morning of chess and pastries at Stir Crazy and when we got to Montecito, stop and ask a local. No one knew, so we looked in a phone book under "Buddhist" (Ben's suggestion).
We found it in a really bad part of town behind a locked gate and a large, empty parking lot. It didn't match the description of "a beautiful temple with large gardens to walk through and a great bookstore" so we regrouped. Again, Ben came up with a great idea - follow the sign he had just seen to the "tourist bureau". Okay, at first I didn't think it was a great idea but didn't really know what else to do.
After standing in line for 15 minutes (I won't even tell you about parking) and amidst questions of places to stay, good restaurants and where is the zoo, we stepped up and told the woman we were looking for a Buddhist temple we had heard about in Montecito. All eyes turned to us and you could hear breathing in a very crowded room. I guess it's an unusual question in So. Cal, but I didn't think it would stop traffic. The woman's eyes widened, and for a brief second my mind flickered to that bad spot in my brain when I think my son might be in danger from a RUSA (run-in with a stupid adult) and then I have to become unpleasant" (whole different vein to mine there). Then she whipped around and, from some little secret drawer on the counter, pulled out a hand drawn map from the tourist office to the temple complete with address and phone number. Wow.
We finally got there and spent an hour walking around the grounds and browsing in the truly great bookstore. We didn't enter the temple because Ben suddenly became shy. Not knowing anything about Eastern Religion, I didn't think this was the time to "march straight in" like I usually do. It would be really sad to teach my son wrong in his religious exploration! While we were buying our books I asked the woman about entering the temple and she told us to (and I kid you not) - "just walk straight in". She warned us to use the left side (of the beautiful teak wood doors) because the right side was always locked and a lot of people leave thinking the temple isn't open. Nice, functional advice.
She walked out with us to the parking lot and said goodbye at the entrance to a path that said "visiting hours, Sunday 12-1pm". Hmmmm...
On the way home we decided that at the next possible Sunday we would head out and go to the Santa Barbara Art in the Park, arrive at the Vedanta Temple in time to visit (?), check out the temple, go watch the hang gliders taking off from Skyline Rd, and then finish the day by getting tri-tip sandwiches at Cold Springs Tavern - a very cool motorcycle hang out from another life of mine.
Oh - the books we bought: "Plan B - Further Thoughts on Faith" by Anne Lamott (my absolute favorite author) and An Open heart - Compassion in Everyday Life by The Dalai Lama.
So, why didn't we just Google it up before we left? Because it would have changed the flavor of the day and we wouldn't have spiraled in on it in such a fun way. We wouldn't have spent time on the curvy back roads of Montecito looking for it and talking about how those roads used to be one of my favorite motorcycle rides which wouldn't have lead to the discussion of having lunch at Cold Springs Tavern. I wouldn't have had such a nice glimpse into Ben's brain when he suggested looking up Buddhist in the white pages and he wouldn't have seen the huge grin on my face when it worked. And we wouldn't have met the three very nice guys at the gas station, hovering around a grimy map on the wall trying to find the address that alluded us. The first guy was completely disinterested when I first asked. Then we told him we were looking for a Buddhist temple, suddenly all three of them were trying to help and commenting that they had always wanted to go there.
I did Google it up when we got home. I was prepared to spend some time refining my search using negative keywords and exact phrases to find it. But no, I got it on my first try with two words - Montecito temple 